Monday, 26 July 2010


The loneliest thing I have ever seen was a four poster bed at Dunster Castle. It was draped with rich brocade, in a beautiful, enormous room with a fantastic view. And the mattress was dipped in two body-shaped dips each side of the bed with a large ridge in the middle, where two people had slept for a lifetime, side-by-side but not touching, whilst the imprint of their bodies had carved a barrier between them that was impossible to smooth over by simply turning the mattress.

How does that happen?

How do people go on, from day to day, walking in the footsteps that they trod the day before, lying in isolation that has become habitual; and not become hollow inside in the same way that the dips in the bed become hollowed out?

How do you stop that happening? How do you make time to not be so tired that all you can do is follow the cart-tracks?


  1. Like they say to new mothers, make sleep a priority until it feels better: go to bed shortly after the children, sleep whenever you can, make sure you get some decent exercise to kick up the ol' endorphins and just be kind to yourself and to each other as you would be to the children.

  2. please, what does the saying about apples mean? i am not english and i don't understand it... am i supposed to change d for f? and what does "fucking for apples" mean? thanks for translating :-)

  3. Just saying "It's a quote" hardly explains it - especially to a non-English-first-language person. I handle English better than most (certainly not all) and assume that I understand it, but still would like reassurance. Someone please Explain the quote.