Thursday, 23 October 2008

express


Did you hear the screaming earlier? That was me, having a full-blown attack of hysteria worthy of a Victorian maidservant. Alternatively you could describe it as the sound of my tether, snapping.

B was involved in an accident last night.

He's fine, basically - apart from seat-belt-induced bruising that means he's wincing as he lifts Leo. And so is the other party. But it looks like my car might be a write-off - it's just been collected on a flatbed and taken to the garage for an inquest. He managed to get it to limp home the half mile from the place in the lane where it happened - but the bonnet is stove in, as are the head-lamps and apparently there's a funny grinding noise as you drive along.

Not good.

They were both doing thirty or thirty-five miles per hour and braked - and he slid downhill on some mud for about fifteen meters in to the other person. The other person had a new car and was really obnoxious, insisting on calling the police, despite no-one being hurt, and calling all her family to the scene of the accident, where they all started yelling at B that he had been speeding and they weren't going to let her lose her no claims bonus over it.

The police didn't even bother to breathalyse him AND they measured the skid marks - so if the other party does try to escalate things beyond knock-for-knock at least the evidence is clear-cut.

But.

That's it.

I am officially unable to cope with this. This is my line in the sand and I am now going to fall apart like a damp tissue.

B was supposed to be going on a job for a couple of days - he has cancelled, because of a) not being able to lift and b) because of the Damp Tissue Effect. Last minute cancellations are often professional suicide and I am now worrying myself silly about that. He's in as much of a state as I am.

Eleanor has caught a cold and has a blocked up nose. She is therefore mouth-breathing and cannot latch on to feed. She's taking bottle feeds - either what I'm expressing or Aptamil - every hour or two, an ounce or so each time. We are on day three now and are all getting tired. However, on the positive side, she is reacting like a normal baby with a cold - so that is reassuring.

Leo is picking up our stress and is clingy and weepy.

I am starting to seriously wonder if someone has put the evil eye on us.

For today, that is all. I need to go and milk myself.


26 comments:

  1. oh, fuckity fuck, what a s**t time you are having!!! oh, you don't need me to tell you, do you? sorry.
    sorry that you are having such a s**t time of it all, as well. Is there much more that Can happen, now? or is this pretty much it, do you think?
    I'm wittering on as I just don't know what else to do - is there anything I can do?
    Sending possie vibes etc, Karen xxxx

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  2. oh, fuckity fuck, what a s**t time you are having!!! oh, you don't need me to tell you, do you? sorry.
    sorry that you are having such a s**t time of it all, as well. Is there much more that Can happen, now? or is this pretty much it, do you think?
    I'm wittering on as I just don't know what else to do - is there anything I can do?
    Sending possie vibes etc, Karen xxxx

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  3. Oh Jesus H, when you think things have got to start to get better, fate always has another snooker to come. Look love, no point in trying to take control, events have the upper hand right now. Things work out in the end and you'll be stronger in the long run because you'll compare and think 'pfft. Nothing to it. Not as bad as 0-fucking-8'. 1970 was my year of damnation and I wholly sympathise with you.

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  4. Oh Jesus H, when you think things have got to start to get better, fate always has another snooker to come. Look love, no point in trying to take control, events have the upper hand right now. Things work out in the end and you'll be stronger in the long run because you'll compare and think 'pfft. Nothing to it. Not as bad as 0-fucking-8'. 1970 was my year of damnation and I wholly sympathise with you.

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  5. oh bugger

    I think you are owed some SERIOUS good luck about now.

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  6. oh bugger

    I think you are owed some SERIOUS good luck about now.

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  7. {{Ally}}

    Practicalities: it's probably as well the police did come; they have as you say taken evidence. If they hadn't anything could have been said and the other party's insurance would attempt to blame him. Secondly, why is there mud on the road? Local farm, bad drainage - is there any warning sign? Might be worth persuing in view of your own insurance cover. Photos would be good, if you can manage to get there before the mud is cleared away.

    As for damp tissues: you have been through hell recently. Of course you're an emotional wreck. One day at a time. Heck, one minute at a time. You will get through it.

    GoodTwin

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  8. {{Ally}}

    Practicalities: it's probably as well the police did come; they have as you say taken evidence. If they hadn't anything could have been said and the other party's insurance would attempt to blame him. Secondly, why is there mud on the road? Local farm, bad drainage - is there any warning sign? Might be worth persuing in view of your own insurance cover. Photos would be good, if you can manage to get there before the mud is cleared away.

    As for damp tissues: you have been through hell recently. Of course you're an emotional wreck. One day at a time. Heck, one minute at a time. You will get through it.

    GoodTwin

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  9. Tried to post my support yesterday but Blogger ate my comment.

    *hugs*

    And if it turns out that someone has put the Evil on you then they're getting a good kicking. And I have some witchy friends of my own ;-)

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  10. Tried to post my support yesterday but Blogger ate my comment.

    *hugs*

    And if it turns out that someone has put the Evil on you then they're getting a good kicking. And I have some witchy friends of my own ;-)

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  11. C in granny mode. xx24 October 2008 at 15:56

    I am glad that she called the police. It means there is a proper record of the scene and no room for her aggressive relatives to embellish. She may just have shot herself in the foot, metaphorically speaking.

    Poor, poor B. However "Been in a small road accident - wrote the car off but its ok I'm just a little shaken and whiplashed" is one of the very few totally acceptable reasons for cancelling that may also have people falling over themselves to compensate you with work once you are 'back on your feet'.

    "Why isnt he here then?"
    "He was in a road accident."
    "Ah, nice chap, how can we help?"

    Honest.

    All four of you need to sleep and get over this sh*tty cold. I suggest swing shifts feeding Eleanor - thank Heavens she's feeding from a bottle.

    P.S. Aptamil - brilliant choice - got the long chain lipids, I remember.

    P.P.S. Crying is wonderful for the sinuses and takes the tension out of the back of your neck too. Blub away. Try Ghost and Truly Madly Deeply (ESPECIALLY TMD) if you feel yourself in danger of cheering up.

    Try Jack and Sarah if you want to be outraged too. ;-)

    :P xxxx

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  12. C in granny mode. xx24 October 2008 at 15:56

    I am glad that she called the police. It means there is a proper record of the scene and no room for her aggressive relatives to embellish. She may just have shot herself in the foot, metaphorically speaking.

    Poor, poor B. However "Been in a small road accident - wrote the car off but its ok I'm just a little shaken and whiplashed" is one of the very few totally acceptable reasons for cancelling that may also have people falling over themselves to compensate you with work once you are 'back on your feet'.

    "Why isnt he here then?"
    "He was in a road accident."
    "Ah, nice chap, how can we help?"

    Honest.

    All four of you need to sleep and get over this sh*tty cold. I suggest swing shifts feeding Eleanor - thank Heavens she's feeding from a bottle.

    P.S. Aptamil - brilliant choice - got the long chain lipids, I remember.

    P.P.S. Crying is wonderful for the sinuses and takes the tension out of the back of your neck too. Blub away. Try Ghost and Truly Madly Deeply (ESPECIALLY TMD) if you feel yourself in danger of cheering up.

    Try Jack and Sarah if you want to be outraged too. ;-)

    :P xxxx

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  13. "C in granny mode" is such good advice it must be Cheryl!

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  14. "C in granny mode" is such good advice it must be Cheryl!

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  15. hello - we have a sorned renualt laguna estate you can have for nothing if you need it . Its been in the garage for three years since John's stroke but if you need it's yours. You will have to collect it but we willbe here from 4/11/08 if this helps.

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  16. hello - we have a sorned renualt laguna estate you can have for nothing if you need it . Its been in the garage for three years since John's stroke but if you need it's yours. You will have to collect it but we willbe here from 4/11/08 if this helps.

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  17. The first time I read your blog and I read about a car crash! Oddly enough, I had a head-on collision in the summer in which I totalled my brand-new (8 week old) BMW, but fortunately I was absolutely fine. The other driver was too, and I think his car was also a write-off. Glad that B is okay, and remember, it was JUST a car and this too will pass. Voice of experience here...

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  18. Agreed, She Weevil is most awesome.

    Ally, lots of hugs to you, B, and your kids. Things WILL get better. I promise!

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  19. Agreed, She Weevil is most awesome.

    Ally, lots of hugs to you, B, and your kids. Things WILL get better. I promise!

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  20. Glad to hear B is ok!

    Z is right, this will all pass. Not much consolation to you now, but it's worth repeating to yourself when you feel low. 1996 was the year from hell for me, at the time I turned into a bit of a damp tissue too. Have a good cry and be kind to yourself.

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  21. Glad to hear B is ok!

    Z is right, this will all pass. Not much consolation to you now, but it's worth repeating to yourself when you feel low. 1996 was the year from hell for me, at the time I turned into a bit of a damp tissue too. Have a good cry and be kind to yourself.

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  22. For a long time I have felt that the negative energies had accumulated around you. I feel it when I read your blog, and it troubles me, hence why I don't visit often.

    I'm not certain for why these energies have become so unbalanced, or where they have come from (but I do feel that it may not be from this dimesion or time). I had hoped that the birth of your second child would lead to some equilibrium.

    I haven't said anything before, because I didn't feel the time was right, and I rarely uncloak myself in blogland, even though I often have Witchy Feelings about things. But, clearly things are now totally out of control, and because I see energies start playing with physical lives, I cannot not say anythign any more (if that makes sense?).

    I think that energies (positive or negative - and negative energy is not always bad) tend to congregate around people who are highly emotionally charged: I know they do around me.

    Most of the time these days I can keep mine in balance, but it's taken a long time, and I don't have all the variant demands on me that you do.

    When my energies become unbalanced and things that trouble me happen, over which I have no control, I have a friend who helps me rebalance. She is a member of the White Eagle Lodge. I know they will help you if you contact them - you don't need to believe as they do, and they make no charge.

    http://www.whiteagle.org/the_teaching.htm

    Hope that is useful; many a true word is spoken in jest and your "evil eye" comment struck me as being a sign that I needed to make a suggestion. Good luck.

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  23. For a long time I have felt that the negative energies had accumulated around you. I feel it when I read your blog, and it troubles me, hence why I don't visit often.

    I'm not certain for why these energies have become so unbalanced, or where they have come from (but I do feel that it may not be from this dimesion or time). I had hoped that the birth of your second child would lead to some equilibrium.

    I haven't said anything before, because I didn't feel the time was right, and I rarely uncloak myself in blogland, even though I often have Witchy Feelings about things. But, clearly things are now totally out of control, and because I see energies start playing with physical lives, I cannot not say anythign any more (if that makes sense?).

    I think that energies (positive or negative - and negative energy is not always bad) tend to congregate around people who are highly emotionally charged: I know they do around me.

    Most of the time these days I can keep mine in balance, but it's taken a long time, and I don't have all the variant demands on me that you do.

    When my energies become unbalanced and things that trouble me happen, over which I have no control, I have a friend who helps me rebalance. She is a member of the White Eagle Lodge. I know they will help you if you contact them - you don't need to believe as they do, and they make no charge.

    http://www.whiteagle.org/the_teaching.htm

    Hope that is useful; many a true word is spoken in jest and your "evil eye" comment struck me as being a sign that I needed to make a suggestion. Good luck.

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  24. I think you're statistically due some better luck, darlings..

    Maybe you're getting all your bad luck out of the way at once, in one shitty period of time, ready for when you win the lottery or something.
    I'll keep my fingers crossed for you all.

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  25. I think you're statistically due some better luck, darlings..

    Maybe you're getting all your bad luck out of the way at once, in one shitty period of time, ready for when you win the lottery or something.
    I'll keep my fingers crossed for you all.

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