Wednesday, 30 July 2008

right then


Right then.

Yesterday we went to the funeral of R's mother, who passed on suddenly a couple of weeks ago. I was in two minds about whether to go - I really wanted to show my support to the family, who are, naturally in shock; but I was worried about holding it together because it was so soon after Pa's. I think it's probably the height of bad manners to have hysterics at someone else's family funeral.

We will not be travelling to Weymouth on Friday for my friend's funeral. It's about a five hour drive and we would have to come back on the same day; not only that, we can't afford the petrol. I am all 'griefed out', I think. When I took the telephone call on Sunday, the person who rang me was crying - I was just numb.

On Monday, I spent all day looking at our finances. We basically need to sell this house - but we are probably not going to clear the mortgage debt if we do so at the moment. I have been talking to our solicitor, who will deal with the mortgage people for us. And the accountant is coming round for a chat tomorrow night. B is going to talk to the Citizen's Advice people this afternoon and this website is very helpful.

We want to avoid bankruptcy if at all possible, obviously.

Leo has gone to nursery today, thankfully - we didn't send him yesterday because of the Exorcist Sick incident the night before; but he seems to be okay now.

I don't feel too bad - apart from the stress-induced vomiting, which is a bit of a nuisance.

Gah.

12 comments:

  1. For the family's sake I'm glad you had the courage to go yesterday. But to put yourself through another funeral (together with the stress of a long journey and so on) probably isn't wise. I had to go to the funeral of a friend's Mum 9 months after my Dad's and that was almost too much for me, and I wasn't pregnant.
    I'm really sorry I can't help out with more than encouraging words.

    GoodTwin

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  2. For the family's sake I'm glad you had the courage to go yesterday. But to put yourself through another funeral (together with the stress of a long journey and so on) probably isn't wise. I had to go to the funeral of a friend's Mum 9 months after my Dad's and that was almost too much for me, and I wasn't pregnant.
    I'm really sorry I can't help out with more than encouraging words.

    GoodTwin

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  3. I detect a deep breath having been taken!

    Seems like a good idea not to make two 5 hour drives on the same day. This may be easier for me to say than for you to do but you need to watch out for those stress levels or you're going to make yourself ill.

    I'm sorry. Today I seem to have the unhappy knack of calmly stating the bleeding obvious. I should've just typed *hug* and left it at that!

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  4. I detect a deep breath having been taken!

    Seems like a good idea not to make two 5 hour drives on the same day. This may be easier for me to say than for you to do but you need to watch out for those stress levels or you're going to make yourself ill.

    I'm sorry. Today I seem to have the unhappy knack of calmly stating the bleeding obvious. I should've just typed *hug* and left it at that!

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  5. I am *trying* to relax, honest. I think we both feel pretty calm about it all, now we've more or less made the decision about what we need to do.

    The encouraging words and *hug* much appreciated.

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  6. I am *trying* to relax, honest. I think we both feel pretty calm about it all, now we've more or less made the decision about what we need to do.

    The encouraging words and *hug* much appreciated.

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  7. At least you know the route you're going now, unappealing the idea of house-sale might be, but I suspect there's a sense of relief.

    *Hug*

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  8. At least you know the route you're going now, unappealing the idea of house-sale might be, but I suspect there's a sense of relief.

    *Hug*

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  9. Oh jeez... it is tough over your side. So very sorry to hear about your Pa passing as well as the other passings. And the house/financial/bankruptcy worries too. Try and just get through, know that you and your little family will get through. Don't know how but it is just a process. One day life will calm down again. It is little comfort to know that you are not alone but unfortunately the nature of your work, and the new house, has meant the outgoings (and demands) are so much higher. You have officially got it tough! But you can survive. Hugs from an absent friend :-D

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  10. Oh jeez... it is tough over your side. So very sorry to hear about your Pa passing as well as the other passings. And the house/financial/bankruptcy worries too. Try and just get through, know that you and your little family will get through. Don't know how but it is just a process. One day life will calm down again. It is little comfort to know that you are not alone but unfortunately the nature of your work, and the new house, has meant the outgoings (and demands) are so much higher. You have officially got it tough! But you can survive. Hugs from an absent friend :-D

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  11. So sorry to hear of all the grief you are experiencing. Life can be so hard to handle sometimes. Stay strong and try to find the things in life that give you pleasure. At least for a brief moment, they may make you smile.

    Dagny
    www.onnotextiles.com
    bamboo and organic clothing

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  12. So sorry to hear of all the grief you are experiencing. Life can be so hard to handle sometimes. Stay strong and try to find the things in life that give you pleasure. At least for a brief moment, they may make you smile.

    Dagny
    www.onnotextiles.com
    bamboo and organic clothing

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