Thursday, 3 July 2008

conversations with my mother #080702


Driving Ma home from the hospital at 5pm yesterday:

Ma: Damn. I hope that rabbit will be okay in the back of the car.
Me: Pardon?
Ma: It's been there since nine this morning.
Me: Gnagh?
Ma: For the magpie.
Me: Gnagh?
Ma: Well someone's given me a Larsen Trap for the magpies and it's got a magpie in it ... so driving in this morning there was a dead rabbit in the road and two magpies were eating it so I thought that that would do for OUR magpie and so I stopped and chased them off and put it in the back of the car.
Me: Ah.
Ma: It hasn't been TOO hot, I suppose.
Me: [retches]

We arrived at the hospital at lunchtime and sat with Pa during the afternoon. He knew we were there. They had put a drain in his leg to try to help him clear his lungs because he was too weak to cough, and just before we arrived had given him some morphine by IV, because he was becoming agitated.

Ma went back in during the evening and she and Sister Natalie sat with him. He passed at 1.15AM, peacefully - cause of death pneumonia.

We are okay.


30 comments:

  1. Oh Ally, thinking of you. Big hugs!

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  2. Ally, So sorry to hear this news. I hope you and all your family keep safe and dwell on the good memories. Angela

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  3. Oh Ally, I'm so sorry. Still thinking of you.

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  4. Oh Ally, I'm so sorry. Still thinking of you.

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  5. And you will be OK. Surprisingly, the world doesn't end. You'll always remember the good times.

    Sorry if that sounds cliched, but it is true.

    {{{hugs}}}

    GoodTwin

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  6. And you will be OK. Surprisingly, the world doesn't end. You'll always remember the good times.

    Sorry if that sounds cliched, but it is true.

    {{{hugs}}}

    GoodTwin

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  7. So sorry - I know just how you feel - Relief and sorrow at the same time

    Take care of yourself and Leo over the next few weeks - you and the bump need all your strength

    Jo xx

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  8. So sorry - I know just how you feel - Relief and sorrow at the same time

    Take care of yourself and Leo over the next few weeks - you and the bump need all your strength

    Jo xx

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  9. My condolences to you and your family. I know you expected it, but still it doesn't make it any less hard. Take care of yourslf!

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  10. My condolences to you and your family. I know you expected it, but still it doesn't make it any less hard. Take care of yourslf!

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  11. Condolences and best wishes to you and your family, Ally

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  12. So sorry to hear this news. It is very difficult to lose a parent whatever the circumstances. Sorry for your trouble as we say in Ireland. Anne

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  13. Oh my deepest condolences dear. I lost my father to very similar circumstances a couple years ago. Very hard to distance the immediacy of the hospital experience from previous family life, but time helps.

    Thinking of you.

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  14. Oh my deepest condolences dear. I lost my father to very similar circumstances a couple years ago. Very hard to distance the immediacy of the hospital experience from previous family life, but time helps.

    Thinking of you.

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  15. Hugs and you're in my thoughts Ally x

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  16. Hugs and you're in my thoughts Ally x

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  17. so sorry ally.

    nowt else I can say

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  18. so sorry ally.

    nowt else I can say

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  19. Aw jeez Ally, I haven't been here in way too long. Sorry to hear your news. Kind thought and positive vibes on their way from Colorado.

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  20. Aw jeez Ally, I haven't been here in way too long. Sorry to hear your news. Kind thought and positive vibes on their way from Colorado.

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  21. Ally! SO sorry to hear your news.

    I'm glad it was peaceful at least, that's all any of us can ask for.

    HUGE hug.
    (Another one, I left you one on Facebook, too. But you can't have enough hugs at times like these.)

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  22. Ally! SO sorry to hear your news.

    I'm glad it was peaceful at least, that's all any of us can ask for.

    HUGE hug.
    (Another one, I left you one on Facebook, too. But you can't have enough hugs at times like these.)

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  23. I'm glad that he knew you were there.
    XXXX

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  24. I'm glad that he knew you were there.
    XXXX

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  25. Deepest sympathies to all.

    *hugs*

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  26. Deepest sympathies to all.

    *hugs*

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  27. Blast. And sundry other, much ruder but somehow appropriate mutterings.
    Damn.
    Thinking of you all.

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  28. Blast. And sundry other, much ruder but somehow appropriate mutterings.
    Damn.
    Thinking of you all.

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  29. So sorry to read about your Dad. Sympathies to all.

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