Tuesday, 8 July 2008

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Tomorrow; body viewing; flower-choosing (Ma wants to do a coffin spray from us all and a posy from the baby) and collecting Aunt Edith from the coach-stop (she is going to play at the funeral).

I also need to post five parcels of tomato plants tomorrow morning, as for some inexplicable reason the Post-Office in Ma's village closes on a Tuesday afternoon and I missed the post today. I have also been putting things on Freecycle. And I dropped three boxes of incontinence pads back to the District Nurses this evening.

Did you know that a limousine to follow the hearse would cost in the region of £110? We have declined, on the grounds that the church is only five minutes up the road; and anyway, Pa's reaction would have been "£110? Just for a car? BUGGER ME!". We also declined a eulogy by the vicar because he would have hated the idea.

Today's gallows humour moment has been explaining exactly where the grave needs to be dug, so that they don't dig up Granny, who has been waiting for her headstone since March 2000.

I'm fraying round the edges a bit. Not sleeping too well.

This is kind of live-blogging a family death, isn't it? Is it weird?

Going to get some fresh air before I collapse in to bed now. Well, fresh air and rain, really. But that's okay.




11 comments:

  1. It is a bit weird, but not in a bad way. Thinking about you here xx

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  2. Take care of yourself Ally. It is a strange time in life isn't it ? After my Mom died, my oldest daughte and I went to the cemetary for arrangementss. While we were waiting we got a fit of giggles over a rather hard of hearing man explaining how he wanted to "86" the cross on his wife's stone and add pictures of the dogs. You had to be there. And luckily people assumed we were overcome with grief, and not laughter.

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  3. Take care of yourself Ally. It is a strange time in life isn't it ? After my Mom died, my oldest daughte and I went to the cemetary for arrangementss. While we were waiting we got a fit of giggles over a rather hard of hearing man explaining how he wanted to "86" the cross on his wife's stone and add pictures of the dogs. You had to be there. And luckily people assumed we were overcome with grief, and not laughter.

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  4. I think I am weird, as I don't think this is weird at all. It is all surreal until the actualy day, which is horrendous, but lovely as well. Your dad would have been right - A 110 quid for a car, for 5 minutes is madness gone mad.
    Thinking of you, love, Karen xx

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  5. I think I am weird, as I don't think this is weird at all. It is all surreal until the actualy day, which is horrendous, but lovely as well. Your dad would have been right - A 110 quid for a car, for 5 minutes is madness gone mad.
    Thinking of you, love, Karen xx

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  6. I talked to both my folks about what they wanted funeral wise when my dads brother died some years ago. Not a nice topic but....

    We met the car at the crem. It's bad enough with out following it.

    Never did the body viewing said my goodbyes to Mum the night before.

    Got tears welling up as I typed. Silly sod aren't I!!

    I think you have to remember the good times and in Mum's case that she isn't suffering anymore.

    look after yourself Ally.

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  7. I talked to both my folks about what they wanted funeral wise when my dads brother died some years ago. Not a nice topic but....

    We met the car at the crem. It's bad enough with out following it.

    Never did the body viewing said my goodbyes to Mum the night before.

    Got tears welling up as I typed. Silly sod aren't I!!

    I think you have to remember the good times and in Mum's case that she isn't suffering anymore.

    look after yourself Ally.

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  8. "Fresh air & rain"? There'll be plenty of opportunities for that today, I fear!

    xx

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  9. "Fresh air & rain"? There'll be plenty of opportunities for that today, I fear!

    xx

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  10. Funerals can be so expensive!! I know.. I think you're right not paying $220 for the car. (Sorry, don't have the pound sign, and that's the dollar equivalent.) I'd say 'Bugger me' too, I want to be put in a cardboard box and have done with it, be no expense to any of my loved ones.

    You're all in my thoughts Ally, and say hi to your mum. Sending her some love too. :-)

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  11. Funerals can be so expensive!! I know.. I think you're right not paying $220 for the car. (Sorry, don't have the pound sign, and that's the dollar equivalent.) I'd say 'Bugger me' too, I want to be put in a cardboard box and have done with it, be no expense to any of my loved ones.

    You're all in my thoughts Ally, and say hi to your mum. Sending her some love too. :-)

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