Oh for goodness sake.
I had a phone call from a very good friend this morning, one of the people who will be coming to Somerset next weekend to stand as sponsor for Leo.
Kate phoned her yesterday. Ostensibly to order some aromatherapy products. But also to have a good chatter about The Situation.
I am not really angry. Just speechless.
They don't know each other - they've only met a couple of times. My friend, of course, is deeply not wanting to get stuck in the middle of our family silliness. Quite rightly. (*waves, apologetically*). She is now in a really invidious situation; and so this has, also of course, had the effect of cutting off one of the people I can talk to about this, who I know would speak good sense..
Actually, strike that about not being angry, please. I am absolutely fucking fuming.
Who the HELL does Kate think she is? She is flailing around, making life harder for B and I, doing a 'poor me I don't know what went on, I'm so upset' to anyone and everyone who will listen to her; and trying to use other people to manipulate us in to doing what she wants - which seems to be continue as if nothing has happened. Instead of doing what B asked her to do when he emailed her; which is think about what happened and what he said to her in response to the letter she sent us; so we can all process the situation and talk about it rationally.
This is my line in the sand.
I am not being pressured, manipulated, pushed around or emotionally blackmailed by ANYONE. The more she pushes, the more I am unable to come forward to meet her half way. I just can't do it.
I was going to email her some photos I'd taken at the weekend of Leo in the garden, as a kind of peace-offering. But I just can't, now. I can't go back to having all those doors open and her walking in and stamping all over our life as if it was okay.
I can't have her approaching my family and friends one by one, trying to get them to act as a mediator for her, or on her side, or whatever it is that she is trying to achieve. I was dealing with this quite well. But I feel that my 'safe' circle of space is being gradually eroded. Because Kate spoke to my mother, every time I have a phone call with Ma, I have a lecture about 'how you should make it up because Kate is so upset'. Is this going to happen gradually with *all* my friends and family?
What should I do, then?