Monday, 10 September 2007

moving along


We have just come back from seeing the midwife - I may have what they call a 'hindwater leak' - ie, my waters have sort of broken but not properly. They are coming out to look me over again at 4pm to see if there is any more going on; and then if things don't move along, tomorrow we go for a scan at the Dreaded Shrewsbury Hospital to see if the liquid levels in the womb have decreased. If they have, apparently we discuss induction because if you are leaking, the baby becomes at risk of infection.

I don't really WANT to discuss induction, as it means that I won't be delivering at home in my nice comfortable bedroom with my candles and essential oils on the burner, but in a scary ward with the scary midwife person.

However, in a way, it would be nice to get it all over with.

I texted Kate to let her know what was happening and she phoned back to ask me to fix her email.

That was quite stressful.

Dad is better in himself by the way, although still on powerful antibiotics and a drip. However, the ward he is on now has a sickness and diarrhoea outbreak and you have to dress up in an apron and gloves to visit anyone.

I am going for a little walk up the hill now to see if I can jiggle the baby out.


16 comments:

  1. I'm rooting for the next post being from B, saying you've had a healthy baby (sans induction), the financing is all straightened out, and your dad is doing well.

    Good luck! I'm very excited for you!

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  2. I'm rooting for the next post being from B, saying you've had a healthy baby (sans induction), the financing is all straightened out, and your dad is doing well.

    Good luck! I'm very excited for you!

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  3. Hmm, hope the walk works out.
    I had a hind leak with No2Child and ended up being induced.
    Can you not ask your midwife to break your waters properly at home? I wish I had asked that.
    Hugs, sweetie - I'm thinking of you and sending your normal labour vibes.

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  4. Hmm, hope the walk works out.
    I had a hind leak with No2Child and ended up being induced.
    Can you not ask your midwife to break your waters properly at home? I wish I had asked that.
    Hugs, sweetie - I'm thinking of you and sending your normal labour vibes.

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  5. Do you have a birth plan for "What I want if I have an induction"? Some people have a "Birth plan for when everything goes smoothly" and if anything doesn't go smoothly they end up totally in the hands of the hospital. But you might still be able to have essential oils, music etc. even if you do have to go into hospital. It's worth asking.

    I'd recommend you brief B carefully because when it comes to that you probably won't be able to remember everything you want or ask for everything you want yourself, so write him out a list.

    I'd also recommend that when you go for your "chat about induction" you ask the question "What are the alternatives?" I was told to remember the acronym BRAN (easy enough for a granola-muncher like me). It stand for Benefits Risks Alternatives Nothing. Whenever the hospital say "We'd like to induce you/give you an epidural/do a ventouse/ do a section" or whatever, you ask "What are the Benefits, what are the Risks, what are the Alternatives and what happens if we just do Nothing?" When you have answers to those questions you can make an informed decision about what you want to do. For example, if it was me I'd ask the midwife "How about a membrane sweep?" That sometimes starts things off without the need for an induction. But that's just what I'd ask, and I'm not you.

    I hope I've worded this clearly enough, that these things are just recommendations, they're what I would do. But I'm not you, I'm not in your situation, and whatever you choose to do (including ignoring me totally) is just fine. I remember I sometimes felt opressed by all the well-meaning advice other people gave men when I was pregnant, so I'm trying to be maximum helpful and minimum opressive.

    Keep your chin up. You're nearly at the finish line!

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  6. Do you have a birth plan for "What I want if I have an induction"? Some people have a "Birth plan for when everything goes smoothly" and if anything doesn't go smoothly they end up totally in the hands of the hospital. But you might still be able to have essential oils, music etc. even if you do have to go into hospital. It's worth asking.

    I'd recommend you brief B carefully because when it comes to that you probably won't be able to remember everything you want or ask for everything you want yourself, so write him out a list.

    I'd also recommend that when you go for your "chat about induction" you ask the question "What are the alternatives?" I was told to remember the acronym BRAN (easy enough for a granola-muncher like me). It stand for Benefits Risks Alternatives Nothing. Whenever the hospital say "We'd like to induce you/give you an epidural/do a ventouse/ do a section" or whatever, you ask "What are the Benefits, what are the Risks, what are the Alternatives and what happens if we just do Nothing?" When you have answers to those questions you can make an informed decision about what you want to do. For example, if it was me I'd ask the midwife "How about a membrane sweep?" That sometimes starts things off without the need for an induction. But that's just what I'd ask, and I'm not you.

    I hope I've worded this clearly enough, that these things are just recommendations, they're what I would do. But I'm not you, I'm not in your situation, and whatever you choose to do (including ignoring me totally) is just fine. I remember I sometimes felt opressed by all the well-meaning advice other people gave men when I was pregnant, so I'm trying to be maximum helpful and minimum opressive.

    Keep your chin up. You're nearly at the finish line!

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  7. Gosh, isn't Melanie great? How helpful.

    I have nothing to add, except best wishes.

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  8. Gosh, isn't Melanie great? How helpful.

    I have nothing to add, except best wishes.

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  9. Thanks everyone - Mel, I've tried to email you a response to your fantastic advice; but our email server seems to have been flagged as a Dirty Spammer again and I can't email anything out to anyone until someone at Pipex realises and fixes it.

    As an update - no further news from the later appointment with the midwife; we are watching The Fantastic Four and I have just eaten a huge bowl of fresh pineapple :).

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  10. Thanks everyone - Mel, I've tried to email you a response to your fantastic advice; but our email server seems to have been flagged as a Dirty Spammer again and I can't email anything out to anyone until someone at Pipex realises and fixes it.

    As an update - no further news from the later appointment with the midwife; we are watching The Fantastic Four and I have just eaten a huge bowl of fresh pineapple :).

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  11. Sorry to hear about the D&V on your dads ward. at least he's feeling better in himself.

    re induction, you don't have to go for it just yet... (or ever) NICE recommends waiting for up to 96hours before induction, and mel is right try for a sweep in the first instance.

    i don't think you can have your waters broken at home - i think midwives aren't allowed. you are of course allowed to do anything you like and they are only allowed to do what you give them permission to do - don't forget that and don't let them think that you don't know that.

    if your waters are 'leaking' then they will be replenished, one of the beauties of mother nature

    have faith in your body, it'll do what it's supposed to do when it's ready to do it.

    good luck, best wishes, 'labour vibes' heading your way

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  12. Sorry to hear about the D&V on your dads ward. at least he's feeling better in himself.

    re induction, you don't have to go for it just yet... (or ever) NICE recommends waiting for up to 96hours before induction, and mel is right try for a sweep in the first instance.

    i don't think you can have your waters broken at home - i think midwives aren't allowed. you are of course allowed to do anything you like and they are only allowed to do what you give them permission to do - don't forget that and don't let them think that you don't know that.

    if your waters are 'leaking' then they will be replenished, one of the beauties of mother nature

    have faith in your body, it'll do what it's supposed to do when it's ready to do it.

    good luck, best wishes, 'labour vibes' heading your way

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  13. Won't be long now. I am thinkng all good thoughts for you. Wish i could do more.

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  14. Won't be long now. I am thinkng all good thoughts for you. Wish i could do more.

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  15. Yeah, I second that, (or third it) Mel is great! I have been reciting Benefits-Risks-Alternatives-Nothing...Benefits...
    since I read that post
    :-)

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  16. Yeah, I second that, (or third it) Mel is great! I have been reciting Benefits-Risks-Alternatives-Nothing...Benefits...
    since I read that post
    :-)

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