Friday, 14 September 2007

happenings


The midwife has just left.

My waters broke in the night but I am not in labour. If nothing happens before 2AM, then the local midwifery-led unit has to hand my care over to the hospital. We have a 'trace' scan booked at midday tomorrow and after that they pretty much start trying all the different grades of things that they can do to induce me.

The midwife recommends doing stuff to try to get me in to labour - walking up the hill, curry etc - for a couple of hours and if nothing happens, then taking a couple of paracetamol and trying to get as much sleep as possible. No shagging though, because as there is a water leak there is probably a hole it is leaking out of, which is, of course, a route for infection to get in.

We'll keep you posted. Any good thoughts sent this way very much appreciated, as I am pretty terrified about handing control over to the sausage machine of the hospital.

17 comments:

  1. Good thoughts and prayers coming up.

    Remember that the midwifes' rule govern them not you, and you don't HAVE to do anything. That includes going into hospital if you don't want to. The NHS is obliged by law to send a medic to attend you wherever you are in labour. However I advise you to listen to the advice of your midwife. If she believes you and your baby will be safer in hospital then that is probably the best thing to do. But no-one can make you go if you are determined not to.

    Perhaps what I mean to say is - if you do go into hospital, know that it was your decision to do so. Don't say "I had to go into hospital. They wouldn't let me stay at home". But if it comes to that, (I hope it won't,) say "I chose to go into hospital. It was the best choice under the circumstances". Then you will know that you were always in control of what happened to you.

    Best of luck. I'm sure everything will be fine, and I hope it will be wonderful. It was for me. I loved giving birth, it was the best experience of my life. I hope you have an experience just as good.

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  2. Good thoughts and prayers coming up.

    Remember that the midwifes' rule govern them not you, and you don't HAVE to do anything. That includes going into hospital if you don't want to. The NHS is obliged by law to send a medic to attend you wherever you are in labour. However I advise you to listen to the advice of your midwife. If she believes you and your baby will be safer in hospital then that is probably the best thing to do. But no-one can make you go if you are determined not to.

    Perhaps what I mean to say is - if you do go into hospital, know that it was your decision to do so. Don't say "I had to go into hospital. They wouldn't let me stay at home". But if it comes to that, (I hope it won't,) say "I chose to go into hospital. It was the best choice under the circumstances". Then you will know that you were always in control of what happened to you.

    Best of luck. I'm sure everything will be fine, and I hope it will be wonderful. It was for me. I loved giving birth, it was the best experience of my life. I hope you have an experience just as good.

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  3. I had one baby at home and two in hospital. The home birth was nicest, but in each case I had a healthy baby and it didn't matter long-term, as I loved them all with my entire heart (most of the time). Good luck, I'm with you in my mind, all the way.

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  4. Many many warm thoughts and prayers winging your way.

    Listen to Melanie, make it your decision. Nor is it a bad one. All three of ours where at the hospital, LLs choice. No regrets either, the first was easy, the second hard, the third a nightmare. Its not always a sausage factory, honest!

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  5. I had one baby at home and two in hospital. The home birth was nicest, but in each case I had a healthy baby and it didn't matter long-term, as I loved them all with my entire heart (most of the time). Good luck, I'm with you in my mind, all the way.

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  6. Many many warm thoughts and prayers winging your way.

    Listen to Melanie, make it your decision. Nor is it a bad one. All three of ours where at the hospital, LLs choice. No regrets either, the first was easy, the second hard, the third a nightmare. Its not always a sausage factory, honest!

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  7. Melanie's advice about making it your decision is really good. You may feel really powerless, but you aren't, and you don't want to look back on this and wish that you hadn't let them push you around. It's not a comfortable feeling, trust me.:-(

    I hope everything goes well. I'll be thinking of you all weekend.

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  8. Melanie's advice about making it your decision is really good. You may feel really powerless, but you aren't, and you don't want to look back on this and wish that you hadn't let them push you around. It's not a comfortable feeling, trust me.:-(

    I hope everything goes well. I'll be thinking of you all weekend.

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  9. The very best of luck and lots of love to you both. Mr. KW and I are rooting for you, pre-2.00 a.m.

    And I second Melanie - if you do end up in hospital, it will have been the best choice for you in the circumstances.

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  10. The very best of luck and lots of love to you both. Mr. KW and I are rooting for you, pre-2.00 a.m.

    And I second Melanie - if you do end up in hospital, it will have been the best choice for you in the circumstances.

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  11. I agree with Melanie, too, but would also add Don't go into hospital Unless it IS best for baby and you.

    As this is your first baby (I assume) you are an 'unknown' in terms of how labour might go, though, as the boy described, each birth with even the same mum is different.

    My daughter's recent experience of hospital birth was fantastic, with the actual labour staff being wonderful and who kept her informed of every decision that needed to be made and ensured she took part at every stage. Which was very different to her expectations of that hospital prior to the birth.

    Ya never can tell just what it will be like, but as Melanie says, You Keep Control.

    Good luck, honey. Love kaz xx

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  12. I agree with Melanie, too, but would also add Don't go into hospital Unless it IS best for baby and you.

    As this is your first baby (I assume) you are an 'unknown' in terms of how labour might go, though, as the boy described, each birth with even the same mum is different.

    My daughter's recent experience of hospital birth was fantastic, with the actual labour staff being wonderful and who kept her informed of every decision that needed to be made and ensured she took part at every stage. Which was very different to her expectations of that hospital prior to the birth.

    Ya never can tell just what it will be like, but as Melanie says, You Keep Control.

    Good luck, honey. Love kaz xx

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  13. lots of good thoughts heading your way. probably already thought of it but how about bouncing on a birthing/exercise ball? no risk of infection in that (just try not to fall off...)

    melanie is so right, if you decide to go in make sure it's because you are sure and be happy with YOUR decision. i think i said before that NICE give you a bit longer than the NHS, up to 96hours once your waters have broken but you need to keep an eye out for signs of infection, and limit the risk of infection, so no uneccesary(sp!) VE's, no nooky.

    take it easy and good luck

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  14. lots of good thoughts heading your way. probably already thought of it but how about bouncing on a birthing/exercise ball? no risk of infection in that (just try not to fall off...)

    melanie is so right, if you decide to go in make sure it's because you are sure and be happy with YOUR decision. i think i said before that NICE give you a bit longer than the NHS, up to 96hours once your waters have broken but you need to keep an eye out for signs of infection, and limit the risk of infection, so no uneccesary(sp!) VE's, no nooky.

    take it easy and good luck

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  15. Nothing but good thoughts coming from here.

    Melanie's said it really well but as this is your first I think everybody (us, your Medical professionals and B & yourself) would probably worry less were you in the hospital.

    Huge virtual hugs for you and...um...a manly slap of the shoulder for B! Hope all goes quickly and smoothly from here on in.

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  16. Nothing but good thoughts coming from here.

    Melanie's said it really well but as this is your first I think everybody (us, your Medical professionals and B & yourself) would probably worry less were you in the hospital.

    Huge virtual hugs for you and...um...a manly slap of the shoulder for B! Hope all goes quickly and smoothly from here on in.

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  17. Good luck sweetie. Pretty soon you will meet the new person :) Lots of easy labour vibes heading your way.

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