Thursday, 14 December 2006

trudging through Mordor


Well, the show went okay.

I didn't actually attend, it being a more productive use of time for me to stay at Kate and Vic's and send out Christmas cards; but B is happy with it, the financial shennanigins not withstanding.

Tomorrow, he goes to Newcastle for an afternoon show and evening de-rig. I stay at home with Kate and file things, to try to confine some of the business chaos to remote corners of the house so that we can have a chilled Christmas. I have done no filing since we moved in on July 7th and Kate is driving down tomorrow morning, purely to spend the day bailing me out. I love her. She is a fab, if slightly eccentric mother-in-law.

Then Saturday, we are meeting some friends in Wallasey for our Annual Christmas Dinner. We were supposed to be going to the Welsh Downsizer Meet in Aberystwyth first for lunch - but B just isn't going to be able to make it and actually get any sleep, so we have had to scratch.

Last year, as some of you will remember, we were responsible for bringing The Largest Turkey In The World to the Annual Christmas Dinner. This year, we have cravenly volunteered for cheese and crackers.

I have actually been a bit of a sweat about the whole thing - we have both gone through phases of feeling quite isolated since we've moved. All our Wallasey friends have busy lives, as we do; and of course it takes more of an effort to keep in touch if you are an hours drive away from friends.

I am not the sort of person who keeps in touch with people on a 'cards and no communication' basis - I just don't see the point; to me, that's not a friendship, it's a formality. And I have felt, with maxium paranoia, that a few of our friends were happily doing their hobbit-thing in The Shire and we were isolated out in Mordor and they'd written us off.

B has been more sanguine about the whole thing; but he's been upset, which is is unlike his normally pragmatic self.

Today though, we dropped in to see R on the way home; and I feel better about everything. R and Dani haven't really seen anyone either; so I am no longer making up conspiracy theories where everyone is getting together every night and having fantastic fun without us, and I am very much looking forward to catching up with everyone - we are both missing them.

(And I know some of you read this - you'll either have to completely pretend you haven't done, or come out and say so, so I can apologise for being grumpy and paranoid in person rather than via a public forum).

And now, I am going to bed.

4 comments:

  1. See, if I lived an hour's drive away, you'd be fighting me off with a big knobbly stick, I tell you! I want to see the exploding chicken! Of course, a photo might suffice, come to think of it. ;)

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  2. See, if I lived an hour's drive away, you'd be fighting me off with a big knobbly stick, I tell you! I want to see the exploding chicken! Of course, a photo might suffice, come to think of it. ;)

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  3. Crap, I just wrote a huge comment then blogger ate it, dang it.

    Well lemme see if I can sum it up, and maybe spell check this time without losing it.

    We all have those times when we feel like everyone else is running around together partying and we're not being included. Or we think, man, how long has it been since I've had some fun? Yep, life it gets in the way sometimes of fun.

    Then we realize that they, our friends are just as harried and busy as we are, and we all just need to make time to see each other once in a while, steady like. It always does all of us good.

    Then we're like, hmmm, do I run over to so and so's house or do I doze here on the couch in all of my clothes while the kids watch some program on Tv? Snore, snore, you know the kind of snores where you wake yourself up, and your head jerks and stuff?

    Oh hell we're a tired lot.

    I think that's what this means of communication does for us, we can be dozing on the couch, get up with a fine case of couch head, and blog our brains out to our friends via the net and never have to leave the house.

    Ginormouse hugs honey and it sounds like we all could use some couple talk, and fun, yes? Yeah for fun.

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  4. Crap, I just wrote a huge comment then blogger ate it, dang it.

    Well lemme see if I can sum it up, and maybe spell check this time without losing it.

    We all have those times when we feel like everyone else is running around together partying and we're not being included. Or we think, man, how long has it been since I've had some fun? Yep, life it gets in the way sometimes of fun.

    Then we realize that they, our friends are just as harried and busy as we are, and we all just need to make time to see each other once in a while, steady like. It always does all of us good.

    Then we're like, hmmm, do I run over to so and so's house or do I doze here on the couch in all of my clothes while the kids watch some program on Tv? Snore, snore, you know the kind of snores where you wake yourself up, and your head jerks and stuff?

    Oh hell we're a tired lot.

    I think that's what this means of communication does for us, we can be dozing on the couch, get up with a fine case of couch head, and blog our brains out to our friends via the net and never have to leave the house.

    Ginormouse hugs honey and it sounds like we all could use some couple talk, and fun, yes? Yeah for fun.

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