Tuesday, 24 October 2006

house hunting, adoption and accountancy

We've been house-hunting today.

We've been to look at two places, one with seven acres of land, beside a river that would provide all ones electricity-from-a-water-turbine needs and a fantastic variety of sheds and outbuildings; but it has not been looked after for three years - so boggy fields and terrible fences - and in a valley that gets almost no sun.

Verdict: It felt like a really sad place. No sale.

The second one was very much nicer. Two acres of land that have been well looked after, with some very nice poultry and duck houses, a greenhouse and polytunnel and a very well tended vegetable garden. Nice house, a fabulous barn and good road links. But not very satisfactorily tucked away, whilst also being pretty close to the main road.

Verdict: Not quite the right place. No sale.

However - we got chatting to the vendor, and it turns out that they adopted their nine year old eighteen months ago. It was a really, really productive conversation for us, very encouraging. They had all the same complaints about the system that we do; but they have a very happy family and their child seems really nice and well adjusted.

Viewing houses seems a quite complex way of meeting successful adopters. But a very positive outcome for us, despite us not instantly falling in love with their property.

We have had no viewings at all via the estate agent, and the people from Houseladder have not come back to us.

We are thinking hard about what we want, whether we could be happy here for a few years and then try to find an 'ideal' place close by.

Now I need to do my adoption homework - we have a meeting tomorrow and I have to demonstrate all sorts of things - my understanding of Diversity, The Baby Crisis Game and my Parenting Capacity.

And before THAT meeting, we also have a meeting with Sarcastic Accountant.

B is home! Did I mention that? :)

20 comments:

  1. Good luck with the meeting tomorrow!

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  2. Ooh, busy day tomorrow! Hope all the meetings go well.

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  3. Good luck with the meetings!

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  4. The baby crisis game? I really really don't think I want to know.

    Come on now Ally, all you really need to do is launch a successful pop career then all will be solved. Simple no?

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  5. The baby crisis game? I really really don't think I want to know.

    Come on now Ally, all you really need to do is launch a successful pop career then all will be solved. Simple no?

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  6. Good luck -- sending lots of positive vibes your way.

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  7. I know people have probably said this to you until you're blue in the face, but it is the slow time of year for selling houses, so don't feel too disheartened just because you've not had lots of viewings yet. After all, it only takes one viewing to sell a house; it just needs to be the right person.

    Bit of a shame about the other houses, but it sounds like you're narrowing down what you really really want, to quote that bible of sense, the Spice Girls, and that can only be A Good Thing.

    Is it just the land that makes your current place less than ideal, or is there more to it?

    Good luck with the meeting, btw.

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  8. I know people have probably said this to you until you're blue in the face, but it is the slow time of year for selling houses, so don't feel too disheartened just because you've not had lots of viewings yet. After all, it only takes one viewing to sell a house; it just needs to be the right person.

    Bit of a shame about the other houses, but it sounds like you're narrowing down what you really really want, to quote that bible of sense, the Spice Girls, and that can only be A Good Thing.

    Is it just the land that makes your current place less than ideal, or is there more to it?

    Good luck with the meeting, btw.

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  9. It's true...you could move in a couple-few years instead. It wouldn't bother your future child at such an early age (kids are adaptable; my family moved an average of once a year until I was 7 years old!) and in the meantime you could probably put up a goat or two on a neighbor's land. Then you could buy what you want for the long term.

    Or you could do it now. Basically, you should do exactly what makes you happiest. :-)

    Good luck with the meetings!

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  10. It's true...you could move in a couple-few years instead. It wouldn't bother your future child at such an early age (kids are adaptable; my family moved an average of once a year until I was 7 years old!) and in the meantime you could probably put up a goat or two on a neighbor's land. Then you could buy what you want for the long term.

    Or you could do it now. Basically, you should do exactly what makes you happiest. :-)

    Good luck with the meetings!

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  11. Yay - B is back, and so, on another level, are you, Ally the Indestructible, Ally the Amazon, Ally the great laugh, good mate and fun blogger.
    Hurrah.
    :-)

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  12. Yay - B is back, and so, on another level, are you, Ally the Indestructible, Ally the Amazon, Ally the great laugh, good mate and fun blogger.
    Hurrah.
    :-)

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  13. Write a list. Be sure to include what you don't want, as well as what you do want. Stick it on a shelf somewhere out of the way, and forget it. But before you forget it, wish, really hard, for all the things on the list. Have done it, it works.. SOmetimes immediately, sometimes in 6 months or a year, but when you find the list again, you realise how much of it has actually happened.
    I think there's something the mind does with that to create a subconscious fairy godmother.. or something.. anyway, it works.

    Write 2 lists, one about the house, one about the adoption, that way, you double your odds.. ;-)

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  14. Write a list. Be sure to include what you don't want, as well as what you do want. Stick it on a shelf somewhere out of the way, and forget it. But before you forget it, wish, really hard, for all the things on the list. Have done it, it works.. SOmetimes immediately, sometimes in 6 months or a year, but when you find the list again, you realise how much of it has actually happened.
    I think there's something the mind does with that to create a subconscious fairy godmother.. or something.. anyway, it works.

    Write 2 lists, one about the house, one about the adoption, that way, you double your odds.. ;-)

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  15. Good job 'natural' parents don't have to go through all this stuff in order to produce - understanding diversity, parenting capacity etc. - population growth would grind to a halt. Surely what a child really needs is a Loving Family, full stop. Good luck with it all.

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  16. Good job 'natural' parents don't have to go through all this stuff in order to produce - understanding diversity, parenting capacity etc. - population growth would grind to a halt. Surely what a child really needs is a Loving Family, full stop. Good luck with it all.

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  17. KW - pretty much the land issue, really. There are things that I'd like to do with the house to make it 'ideal' - a rayburn, change the colour scheme from horrible-beige-orange to something less offensive etc. etc.. But they can all be done given time, hard work and a bit of saving up. Nothing is going to give us a sustainable woodland for coppicing, though.

    Chandira - hmmm. I do send reiki to my 'list' of wants and needs and leave it up to the 'highest good'. Perhaps I'll try writing it down ...

    anno domini - hello and thank you for commenting - I am not sure if you have commented before, but welcome!

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  18. KW - pretty much the land issue, really. There are things that I'd like to do with the house to make it 'ideal' - a rayburn, change the colour scheme from horrible-beige-orange to something less offensive etc. etc.. But they can all be done given time, hard work and a bit of saving up. Nothing is going to give us a sustainable woodland for coppicing, though.

    Chandira - hmmm. I do send reiki to my 'list' of wants and needs and leave it up to the 'highest good'. Perhaps I'll try writing it down ...

    anno domini - hello and thank you for commenting - I am not sure if you have commented before, but welcome!

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  19. Sometimes I wonder if there is such a thing as the "perfect house". I, for example, miss the countryside and the ocean with all my heart. I miss the open fields, the quiet, seeing the stars at night, and the thought of my children being.. well.. *children* in the city scares me.

    However, I love this landlocked city so much--despite being an 18 hour car drive from the ocean I miss..

    I like the variety of ethnic foods, the cultural events, the access to a wider variety of foods and entertainment, the improved level of healthcare and other healthcare infrastructure. Our house here is tiny. Our backyard is miniscule by the standards to which I grew accustomed as a child. ..But I really love our neighbourhood.. etc.

    I think I'm slowly becoming convinced that I will always be torn between my ideal house and my actual.

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  20. Sometimes I wonder if there is such a thing as the "perfect house". I, for example, miss the countryside and the ocean with all my heart. I miss the open fields, the quiet, seeing the stars at night, and the thought of my children being.. well.. *children* in the city scares me.

    However, I love this landlocked city so much--despite being an 18 hour car drive from the ocean I miss..

    I like the variety of ethnic foods, the cultural events, the access to a wider variety of foods and entertainment, the improved level of healthcare and other healthcare infrastructure. Our house here is tiny. Our backyard is miniscule by the standards to which I grew accustomed as a child. ..But I really love our neighbourhood.. etc.

    I think I'm slowly becoming convinced that I will always be torn between my ideal house and my actual.

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